DJ was kind when I was a lonely teenager and I'd like to thank him

DEAR ABBY:

As a lonely, mixed-up teenager in the 1980s, I developed a huge crush on a disc jockey from a local radio station. I called him at least once a night when he was on the air, and he was kind enough to take my calls and talk to me about whatever I wanted to talk about for as long as he could.

My parents hired him to DJ my Sweet Sixteen party, and even though less than a dozen kids showed up, he was professional and courteous throughout the entire ordeal. The highlight of the party was when he danced with me after he started playing “16 Candles”. I followed him to radio station events and was basically a general pest. He was just kind, understanding and patient.

Now in my mid-50s, I realize that I had undiagnosed mental and social issues throughout my childhood that were not discussed and treated at the time, and I regret a much of my behavior at the time. The DJ is still involved in radio. He has since married and had children and, although I admit I was a little jealous when I heard about it, I became happy for him and his family. He still holds a special place in my heart for being so kind and patient with me at such a strange time in my life.

I never had a boyfriend in high school or college. I married the first man who was seriously interested in me, but he left after seven years and two children. I decided I wanted to send a letter to the DJ, thanking him for being there for me when I needed someone to talk to, for putting up with me for so long, and for understanding me even when I didn't. didn't understand myself.

I am NOT looking to interfere in his happy life, but I don't want to wait until his funeral to let him know how grateful I am and how much he means to me. Should I write and send the letter? — DJ SAVED MY LIFE

DEAR SAVED:

That disc jockeying made such a profound difference in your life when you desperately needed support is wonderful. I think it would please him to receive an expression of gratitude from you all these years later. Of course, send the letter.